Privacy vs Secrecy

Fact #1- Everyone is not going to be happy for you. When people think you’re in a place of comfort, thriving and/or happiness, they began to re-evaluate their lives. If their life isn’t near to where yours is, people want to pick at your flaws and decisions. No one is perfect, mistakes will be made- the goal is to learn from these mistakes. Listen, people will always have something to say, good and bad. The key is not to feed into the negative energy and maintain good vibes. Don’t be afraid to walk away from these people…no matter who they are! Sadly to say, people don’t always have good intentions, not even from the beginning.

Fact #2- Privacy is a right; secrecy is not. We’re each entitled to our own privacy. What we consider private will differ among us. However, keeping secrets of almost any kind undermines trust. There are exceptions such as surprise parties, gifts, etc… you know, harmless secrets. We need to maintain healthy boundaries to preserve our own identities yet not “lose ourselves” in a relationship or friendship. But avoiding secrets is key, too. Secrets of almost any kind lead to diminished trust. Diminished trust creates a situation where others may question motives and actions – which in turn may lead them invading privacy. Fact #3- Learn to know who has your best interest. Those who know your weaknesses and strengths, those who can lift you when you’re a wreck- emotionally or physically. Don’t allow anyone to pick you a part due to your decisions or their lack of decision making. We have our own journeys and thoughts. Just because my thoughts doesn’t resemble yours, that doesn’t make mine less worthy or respected. A huge and hard lesson to learn, keep your income, relationship/friendships and next move private. Block the negative energy and focus on the positive aspects of your life. Create your peace! No amount success or money will make you happy if you aren’t at peace with yourself. Some people may have to read that last sentence twice.

”Because at the end of the day, the right people fight for you. The right people show up. The right people care, not only when life is convenient, but when it is difficult and messy and it aches all over”—Bianca Sparacino

^^^create your circle of privacy with these people…a circle of secrecy shows a lack of transparency and trust!